People ask themselves…

What is the meaning of life?

How do I become happy and not suffer?

Allow me to address the first question. But before I do…I want to disclose that I do not have the right answers, nor am I God or some spiritual entity to know the real answers. So, where does that leave things?

One thing I can say confidently is that I’m a human being grateful to have discovered my life has meaning and I found my purpose. When I was younger I wanted to take my own life, and thankfully I didn’t. Instead I chose to be my best self, to be coming from a place of love and compassion, to lead by example, and to teach and inspire individuals to be happy. I have committed myself to a life-long journey of personal growth and development, investing hours upon (hundreds) of hours into coaching and training, and I continue to strive to be the best trained coach that I can become by getting coached by some of the top coaches and mentors in the world so that I am clear from my own ‘stuff’ and happy in my own life.

The second thing is that today Robin Williams, the award-winning comedian and actor, chose to end his life. I’m heartbroken upon hearing this news and my sincerest condolences go out to his family. You see, for me this is a big irony. He was a true legend who brought laughter to millions of people, and yet he was deeply depressed and suffering himself. Which had me inspired to embark on a journey to explore these most fundamental questions that people ask about life. And so, I can only hope that I’ve reached a level where I learned enough to be an expert on the topic of happiness and the meaning of life.

Here are my short and simple answers to the original imposing questions:

What is the meaning of life?

Life is meant to be explored and lived fully – not questioned and not doubted. You are here for a very good reason. Your life is meant to be a journey of self-exploration – keep learning, exploring and be curious without judgment. Great things will come to you from this place. It is about how you place meaning on things. The meaning of life can be anything you want. So, I invite you to choose a good one. One that you can look back on in later years and say, “man, that was one incredible ride – with the good, the bad, and the ugly.”

How do I become happy and not suffer?

It isn’t about happiness versus suffering. It is about love. How much do you love yourself, and how much do you leave on the table for someone else to decide how much you should be loved? What if it was a simple choice that started from you to either be happy or suffering? It all starts from within you first, not the other way around.

In closing, I believe that when you truly love yourself, even with all your imperfections, then you are only making room for happiness to grow. When you love yourself and view yourself as whole and complete, you are saying that you embrace everything that is part of you, and everything about life. When you lack love and respect for yourself, then your choices and the mirror called life will only reflect back those things that lead to suffering. Your choices will ultimately become your reality.

As for Robin all I can think of, is how perhaps had he made one small shift to love himself more, and whether it could have changed his fate. He will be greatly missed. He was my all-time favorite comedian. I’d like to take a moment to pay tribute by sharing this short clip from a scene in the movie Mrs. Doubtfire where he is cooking.

“God, it’s hot in here.”